A Lasting Marriage By Sandi Houweling

Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it. (Ephesians 5:25)

Valentines Day, 1976.  We stood before God, our families and friends, and spoke these words: “I take thee….To have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part”.  Little did we know what a journey it would be, but here we are today looking back on 42 years together.

God has been faithful.  Times of need?  He has been our provider.  Times of sickness?  He has been our healer.  Times of discouragement?  He has lifted our heads.  Times of stress?  He has been our peace. Because God is faithful we can be faithful. In times where people fear commitment and think marriage is a thing of the past, we can be faithful.  Has it always been easy?  Of course not!  Has God always been with us?  Of course!!!

There was the time when we needed grocery money and I found a $100 bill mysteriously in the washer when I pulled out the clothes.  We have no idea how it got there.  Or the times we needed work, and God provided.  And recently, when Len suffered an acute heart attack, God saw that he got the best help, just in time to save his life.

Because we believe that God is faithful, we trust Him.  It’s really that simple.  God never said we would be without troubles but He DID say that he would see us through them.  He promised us in John 16:33, “in this world you will have trouble.  But take heart!  I have overcome the world!”

God is faithful; it is simply part of who He is.  As we identify with His faithfulness, it becomes a part of who we are.  God’s design for marriage helps us understand important qualities about Him.   God wants a relationship with us of oneness that is permanent.  God will not suddenly say, “I’ve changed my mind, I don’t love you anymore.”  He is committed to us, faithful and true.  He wants us to be in a relationship with Him that is built on love, binding and true, and this is also His desire for our marriages.

How can we grow a faithful marriage?

  1. Forgive—forgive one another just as your Father has forgiven you (Eph. 4:32)

  2. Talk—spend time with each other, just as your Father longs to spend time with you (Jeremiah. 33:3)

  3. Serve—in humility, serve one another (Philippians 2:5-8)

Prayer: Lord, as we enter this season of remembering your death and your resurrection, we know that because you have been raised to life, we can trust you.  We can trust you with our relationships, especially our marriage.  Nothing is too hard for you!

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