Ice Breaker: What is the best advice you've ever received from someone smarter than you?
1. The Church has screwed up big time with loving gay people.
i. History shows that the church can be loving towards people from all kinds of backgrounds, but gay people are often excluded from this. Discuss in light of John 3:16, and how God states that He loves the world.
ii. How does having a problem with gay, lesbian, transgendered and bisexual people attending church reflect a problem with your heart? Discuss.
2. You can accept people without agreeing with them. i. What is the difference between agreement and acceptance? ii. "Saying that someone who doesn't agree with homosexuality is a homophobe is like saying that someone who doesn't agree with the values of the Bible is a Christianphobe." Discuss. iii. Can we still love and accept people without agreeing with homosexuality?
3. Sexuality is Sacred.
i. Genesis 2:18-25. Why is sex more than procreation and a pleasurable experience?
ii. Sex is a right, not a privilege. Discuss.
4. Sex isn't just physical.
i. What is sexual sin? ("Anything outside the confines of...") ii. Is there a scale for sexual sin? a. We cannot judge sin based off of our own scales ("pre-marital sex is okay, adultery is worse, but homosexuality is the worst!") Discuss. b. What's the big deal about sexual sin? How does it affect our relationships with God and people? iii. When we sin sexually, we are choosing to worship sex over God. Why does this contradict Christianity?
5. You are a child of God.
i. Mankind was made in God's image, and God breathed life into us, setting us apart from the rest of creation. a. People go wrong in the area of sexuality because they feel their identities as people are wrapped up in sex and gender. Sexual desires, preferences and gender are things that are too small to which to devote your life. Where should our identities be?
6. You don't have to submit to your sexuality. You can submit your sexuality to Jesus.
i. Too often, we give in to sexual desires/gender questioning because we feel like we have no other choice but to submit to our sexuality. Discuss this in light of Matthew 10:39, when Jesus says "lose your life for my sake" ii. Courage isn't "being true to yourself" but rather denying yourself and pursuing Jesus in a world that is clearly going against God's way of sexuality. What does it mean to deny yourself?
7. There is hope! i. Proverbs 3:5-6. Will you trust God, who is smarter than me and made my body/created sex, that his plan is the best/right plan for you? ii. God loves us despite our sin, but We all have sexual desires that are outside of God's plan for sex. God's plan requires us to submit our feelings and dispositions to Him for His plan, including His plan for our sex life. Discuss. iii. God can redeem your sexuality if you are willing to let Him forgive you and submit your sex life to Him.