What to do when you don't have a date

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Being single can be tough, challenging, and sometimes downright depressing.  But it doesn’t have to be. I want to give you some advice—a new way at looking at a fairly familiar verse out of the Bible.

Don’t let anyone look down on you because you are young, but set an example for the believers in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith and in purity.  (1 Timothy 4:12)

1. Don't let anyone look down on you. 

You don’t live your life for the approval of people, but from the approval of God.  Anything that needed to be proved for you was proven by Jesus through His death and resurrection.  If there are people who judge you because you’re single, that speaks volumes about them, not you.  Ignore them.

2. Set an example. 

Your life isn’t on hold until you start dating.  Every day is an opportunity.  When people watch your life, this is what they should see:  enthusiasm, positivity, joy, faith, and kindness. Today’s going to be great—expect it! Set an example with this attitude.

3. Be exemplary in your speech. 

If you allow your singleness to make you angry, it will show in the way you speak to and about others.  You will tear them down.  I have a better idea.  Build them up.  Since you were built by a perfect Builder in His image, embrace the opportunity to build others up instead of tearing them down.  Every word you speak to and about another person is a great responsibility.  You were born to be a builder.  Talk like it.

4. Be exemplary in your conduct.

You don’t have time to wallow in self-pity or waste time waiting around. There are people to see, things to do, goals to achieve.  What is your plan for tomorrow?  Next week?  Next year?  There are dreams you have and aspirations in your heart that are bigger than sitting around waiting for someone to like your online dating profile.  Dream big dreams.  Dare greatly. And then roll up your sleeves and, with God’s help, make each day your masterpiece.

5. Love. 

You heard me.  Love.  I’m not talking about romantic or physical love.  I’m talking about looking at the world through a new lens.  Love is a verb.  It's active.  Love is looking at the world around you and asking what you can give, not what you can take. Who can you love today?  Jesus promises that it is more blessed to give than to receive.  Live a life of love, and you’ll see it play out in real time.

6. Grow in faith.

Read your Bible.  Go to church.  Join a small group.  God’s got some work He wants to do in you. Seek Him FIRST, and everything else will fall into place

7. Be pure. 

This goes beyond the “don’t have sex before you’re married” talk.  That’s a given, but purity goes beyond what you’re NOT doing.  I’m talking about being PURELY YOU.  Be yourself.  Don't pretend to be anyone you’re not thinking maybe more people will like you.  The last thing you need is to be with people who are with you because you’re good at pretending.  Be real.  Be purely you.  You’re amazingly YOU.  If they can’t figure that out on their own, forget them.

So don’t sit around watching your online dating account.  DO THESE THINGS and see what God does when you put Him first.


Love you guys and praying for you in this!

- Pastor Mike