How was your commute this morning? Do you find driving an exercise in frustration and stress? Are you a “road rager”? Let me put that a different way:
- Do you regularly drive over the speed limit, or try to "beat" red lights because you are in a hurry?
- Do you tailgate or flash your headlights at a driver in front of you that you believe is driving too slowly?
- Do you honk the horn often?
- Do you ever use obscene gestures or otherwise communicate angrily at another driver?
Look, we all have moments that we’re not proud of while behind the wheel. But if you’re finding lately that you are having those moments more and more, here are three things your road rage is telling you.
1. You’re an angry person.
Ask your family and your friends. They’ll back me up on this. You’re not a happy camper, and it shows in your angry demeanor. People are liking being around you less and less, because you’re angry.
Three possible reasons for your angry disposition. You’re hurting, guilty or jealous.
Maybe things that have happened to you in life have left you hurting. You know what they say about hurting people right? Hurting people hurt people. Is it time to move past your hurt? To forgive those who have hurt you? When you withhold forgiveness, you can’t move past your past. When you cling to a painful past, you’re unable to take hold of the opportunities of today and the dreams of tomorrow. Let it go.
Or maybe you’re guilty. The person you can’t forgive is yourself. You have said things you wish you wouldn’t have said. You’ve done things you wish you wouldn’t have done.
Three steps to beat guilt: Confess. Confess your sin to God and the person you’ve hurt. Repent. Apologize to God and the person you’ve hurt. Make restitution where possible. Move on.
You might be angry because you’re jealous. Can I give you one quick trip to beat jealousy? Celebrate the people you’re tempted to envy. Cheer them on. I dare you to try it.
2. The second thing your road rage is telling you is that you lack perspective.
You’re yelling at that person or flashing your lights. Why? Because you’re caught up in the moment. Start asking yourself, “how does this story end?”, before you flash your high beams.
Perspective will change the way you live. It will help you decide whether or not to hit that snooze button, have that extra dessert, go to that party, reply to that text, or yell at your child. How does this story end?
3. The third thing your road rage is telling you is that you’ve forgotten your mission.
Jesus said the world will change when Christ followers display LOVE. It's easy to love the lovable. Not so easy to love the jerk who just cut you off is it? What if we lead with love…when we look at that driver in front of us and say, “You’re more important than me”, take a deep breath, and move on? That simple change in attitude would make the world a better place.
- Pastor Mike
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